Saturday, March 28, 2009

It's Me; Can You Believe It? Anyone Still Out There?

I know I all, but disappeared it seems. Just totally was not in a blogging mood. In the neanwhile I discovered Facebook and followed some blogs. In a nutshell, here is a little of what's been happening or not happening.

We're kind of in a holding pattern trying to decide what we want to do. We filed our paperwork with USCIS for the country change, plus the change in our homestudy agency and waited and waited to hear something and then last month, I finally e-mailed USCIS to see if they received the paperwork and what the status of things were and they e-mailed back that they processed the paperwork end of December, but they don't send a new 171-H. I'm thinking, well, how the heck were we suppose to know this when you didn't send any kind of letter or e-mail or anything. Then, we were working on our dossier and getting it pretty close to done when I found out that our employment letters did not match the homestudy, we had done a few months ago. We were told to just have our employers issue new employment letters with our old salary figures. That would have been no problem for Kevin since his employer is the same, but with my company was bought by another company and at the beginning of this year, we are now employees of the other company, so I couldn't have my employer do a new employment letter, since the employer is now a different company and the current employer would be different than in the homestudy, . Our other option was to get a new homestudy, which would need to be approved by DCFS, which would have taken a lot of time, since DCFS is often so slow. By the time, we were re-approved by DCFS, a lot of our dossier paperwork would have expired. So, we decided that between these problems, the uncertainty of my job, our growing discontent with our placement agency, etc., we decided it was best we decide which way we wanted to take things. We knew we would change placement agencies and we were unsure if we would switch countries yet again, Nepal or a domestic - an African American/biracial adoption. Nepal is out, since the government is only allowing each approved agency to submit 10 applications a year and the agency we got info from has met their quota for 2009 and 2010. 2011 is too far off and in that time, they could end up closing down again just as they did for 18 months to revamp their adoption system and just as Vietnam did this past summer. We're still not sure if we want to stay with Ethiopia or go with an AA/biracial domestic adoption. No matter, which we choose, things will be unpredictable; adoption always is, it seems.

7 comments:

Ann said...

i wish so bad that you could follow us, We love our agency and things are just so refreshing where we are. I am sure you feel pretty beat up, trust me, this was the best move we have made in 3 years! Best wishes

Kris & Staci said...

I didn't know if you guys were still around. Just about removed you from our blog roll. Glad I didn't!

crazywonderfullife said...

I'm still here! I hope something works out for you guys. I know you will make wonderful parents someday, somehow :-) best wishes.

Susan and Charles said...

I was wondering about you! So glad you updated your blog. Don't give up, your baby is out there! I love your new blog title and that song. I have the sheet music and every time I play it on piano I end up in tears. Thinking about you as make your decision on which way to go.

abc123vn said...

I have been wondering about you and if you were still planning on adopting....sorry I have been out of it lately. Keep up the hope I know God has a plan for you...and keep us posted :)

abc123vn said...

I have been wondering about you and if you were still planning on adopting....sorry I have been out of it lately. Keep up the hope I know God has a plan for you...and keep us posted :)

Anonymous said...

We had a couple leave our international agency (for numerous reasons) and go with the following domestic adoption. In just a few months, the have a beautiful son!
http://www.opendooradoption.org/